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Author: odear6 Subject: Need advice!
corgs5150
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posted on 03-01-2012 at 14:26 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Need advice!

Me and my wife had been dating for 6 years and married for just 1 year. We had been fighting a lot lately. Recently, I have been dealing with my father's stage IV melanoma cancer and taking him to treatments. She always seems to experience these temper tantrums when she doesn't get her way or when she feels that I don't appreciate her. She literally cries like a 2 year-old. Well after our last fight she decides she is moving out. She has been out for 2 months now. We tried going to couples counseling and made it through about 2 sessions at which she tells me that she doesn't want to try anymore? She says that she is too scared that I won't love her like she deserves to be loved. I begged and pleaded for her to go back to counseling but she refused. So I talked to a lawyer and told her that if she wasn't going to work on our relationship then we needed to get a divorce. I felt pretty good about the decision at first but I keep going through the ups and downs of did I do the right thing? Can we fix our relationship? Is this normal? Did I do the right thing? Any insight would be helpful!
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posted on 03-04-2012 at 09:36 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
take care of you

Time to regroup and take care of yourself. I can't speak for you however my wife left me about 3 weeks ago, I suggested counseling to which she said "I'm too fucked up in the head for counseling". 3 days after she leaves, I find out she I find out she is with someone else. Now I realize I need to get myself together and move on.

You can't worry about someone who doesn't worry about you. I know this is tough but it'll get better, continue with your counseling, change up your routine, join a non-profit orginization and remeber to take care of you.
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posted on 03-06-2012 at 22:25 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Moving On

I agree w/Kanin35...my soon to be ex - first told me he just needed space, I admit i was feeling guilty because i was in the wrong on the marriage...but then he came back and told me what i had done was unforgivable and he wanted out, but only as a legal separation that way if he did find it to forgive me, we would still be ok.

Well, it wasn't me - after hiring a PI, it was him that had stepped out on me 2 yrs earlier and was seeing multi people and wearing my undergarments....I was so in shock - he managed to steal over 25000 in cash from all our joint accounts.

Move on - its' not easy - I cry, I scream, I yell but I know these are normal things and the court of law will make him pay. I have to stand for me....he had been cheating for 2yrs and planning how to destroy me.

Move on - don't second guess your self and if she is finding every excuse not to make it work - then theres someone or something else.

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