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Author: jaidynskiss Subject: Should I give up too?
Hitbyabrick
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posted on 07-03-2011 at 20:47 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Should I give up too?

She says she is about to be 50 in two years and she wants to sow her wild oats. She has been going out on Fri and staying away until Sunday night. she is taking frequent trips out of town to be with her girl friends. She is on a dating web site that she says is just fun and games. She recently lost weight and is three times as hot as she was 2 years ago. Says she just needs space to see if our marraige can be saved and if she has the "want to" to try counseling. We have been living seperately for two months now after she asked me to leave because she cant stand being around me. She has not worked for the entire marraige and told me that I will pay her not to work and she will have the life she wants, partying. Kids will be out of house in 4 years and off to college. Should I hang on and try or just give in and get on with my life? She does not love me and I havent felt loved or respected for almost 5 years.
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KyleMorrison
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posted on 07-08-2011 at 04:19 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
tough choices

'She does not love me and I havent felt loved or respected for almost 5 years.'

I think you have just answered your own question. You sound like you want to move on but there is somethin stopping you ... you might call it love for her, but it might actually be fear of taking that leap.

The more you cling to her, the more of a safety net you provide for her also - if you make the break she is left without that net so she will need to make a REAL decision about her life - meanwhile you have made the emotion decision to be able to try to move on.

It is not easy and i will not advice you to do it or not - that is up to you, but make sure you are making the dcision based on hope, love, and self respect most of all - do not make decisions based on fear!
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jaidynskiss
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posted on 08-17-2011 at 10:38 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
FYI

Just an FY!, if she is on dating sites, regardless of her reasonings, it's a big no-no in divorce proceedins or separation terms, weather its on paper or not. Go talk to a laywer and see what he tells you though. Be sure to tell him about everything!
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