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Author: Toychest19 Subject: Really need someone's help - ANYONE
Ohcrapheartbreak
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posted on 01-20-2012 at 02:14 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Really need someone's help - ANYONE

Me and my husband have been married for almost a year but have been together for 6 years before that. For the past 6 months he's been getting very distant and even pushing me away, except for if he wants sex..of course. He isn't cheating, there are no issues for sure there.

Here's my problem; he doesn't show interest, he doesn't want hugs or kisses unless he's leaving for work and that's it, he completely closed himself off from me to the point where when I talk to him I'm actually talking to a brick wall, not him. When I finally get an answer out of him why he's acting this way towards me, he just says "whatever!" like a moody teen.

I have blamed myself for the way he acts towards me and the way he treats me for a very long time. However, I started noticing that it's him, not me. I told him one night that I was getting divorce papers the next day, his reply: "whatever. I don't care, I'm not stopping you."

He has turned so cold against me, he doesn't show compassion, he no longer talks to me about anything and IT HURTS SO F ING bad. He won't touch me in that way anymore.

Hardest parts are, we have 2 kids together & im 22. So I'm not old, neither is he. I'm sick of how he's been treating me the past 6 months, he makes promises to change and just breaks them. It's only getting worse, he's only pushing away farther.

Is this the end? Is he trying to tell me he's done?
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posted on 03-24-2012 at 15:13 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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You are very young (both of you). Not sure what the solution is of course but if it were me I would sit him down and point blank ask him what he wants and go from there. If he can't give you an answer, then ask him to attend counseling with you (or even on his own if he refuses joint sessions). If he can tell u what he wants or what the problem is, work from there.
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posted on 05-11-2012 at 21:52 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hi

I completely agree with jen72,Divorce is not the solution for your problem.Give some more time to your husband.I think counseling give some solution to this problem.
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posted on 08-27-2012 at 15:25 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Agree again

I agree with the previous replies....

You guys are so young that he may just be dealing with frustrations of one kind or another and doesn't realize or understand how to deal with them. I agree that you need to sit down and just say, "WHAT DO YOU WANT?"

If he says divorce, than that's the answer. You can't force him to want to stay in the marriage.

Pretty much any other answer will give you something to work with. At least it will make it clear to YOU what the problem is

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